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Fake People: 16 Things They Do



Fake People: 16 Things They Do

It’s not hard to tell when someone is being fake but sometimes keep friendships going with them.

But what are the consequences of having a friend who goes about life insincerely?

For starters, when someone isn’t being themselves, you can never fully trust them.

That means you can’t trust them with your information or problems, and you probably can’t share your good news or deepest secret with them either.

Someone who is constantly pretending to care and never actually does can make you feel worthless and frustrated.

So if you suspect that someone in your life is quite the fake, think about moving on. 

 



Here are 16 signs that someone is actually quite fake, Let’s jump right in.

 
1) Fake people make plans they don’t keep

Fake people will make promises they can’t keep and break plans easily.

Have you ever run into a friend you haven’t seen for a while and they instantly want to make plans to meet up for coffee?

They seem so excited to see you and talk about all the great things they are doing, but then… they never call. No text. No coffee.

They never follow through with their word.

This is a real problem: fake people make commitments they never intend to keep. It’s a real testament to the type of person you are dealing with here. They are all talk and no action. 


2) Fake people are only around when it’s convenient for them.


You might go weeks or months from hearing from someone, and then you do. But only because they want or need something from you.

A fake person will happily go into silent mode and be eternally busy until they need you for something.

They might call and ask you for a favor, or they will text you to join them for lunch, but you need to drive because their car is in the shop, or pay because their wallet is at home.

Perhaps they invite you to dinner because another friend bailed and they already had reservations.

A fake person has no hesitation to use you for company or help.

See how that kind of pattern develops? It can feel very one-sided and become more obvious the more you look out for it. 


3) Fake people disappear when you need them most

Disappearing acts are common among fake people.

They hang around when they get what they need from you, but the minute you need something from them, they bail.

They can’t even fathom missing out on their lives to help another person in need. If you ask them for help or a favor in return, they happily decline. Actually fake people can come off as quite selfish.

If you have fake people in your life who wear you down like this, it’s essential to learn how to stand up for yourself.

Because you do have a choice to break free from fake people.

When it comes to relationships, you might be surprised to hear that there’s one very important connection you’ve probably been overlooking:

The relationship you have with yourself.



4) Fake people don’t listen when you talk

Another clear sign of a fake friend is to look out if they will happily take over and dominate your conversations. Fake friends will easily talk for an hour about their latest issues and problems but have no time to listen when you try to relate.

Oh sure, they pretend to listen but they are on their phones, updating statuses, or talking to someone else while they are sitting right in front of you.

They don’t actually listen or seem to care when they are around you.

They’ll space out or make some off-the-cuff comment that tells you they aren’t really listening.

This can feel belittling and exhausting. Take note of how you feel after interacting with someone.

Do you feel uplifted or depleted?


If you feel drained, it can be a sign that this person is actually a fake friend and only concerned with themselves. 

 



5) Fake people pretend not to be upset about things

Anyone who says they never get mad or angry at anything or anyone is full of it. Of course, everyone gets mad at something.

But when fake people are deep undercover in their personas they’ve worked so hard to craft, it’s all part of the plan to make people think they are something they are not.

They will try to seem cool and untouched by others around them. But when they are alone or look within they feel quite differently inside.

Come on now, everyone gets mad at something! When someone seems too composed it can be a sign that they are not honestly expressing themselves around you. 


6) Fake people are never around or available


A fake friend will easily make themselves into a ghost. You might call and call and they never return your calls. You show up at their place, but they are too busy to give you any time. You might run into them on the street, but they are late for a meeting or errand.

A fake friend can’t come to your party because of work, a meeting, or a project.

There’s always some reason or another about why this person doesn’t want to hang out with you, but constantly tells you they can’t wait to see you again.

What’s up with that? It’s called being fake.

They don’t have the courage to tell you they don’t want to be friends. Take the hint and move on.


7) Fake people talk about you behind your back

A fake friend might listen to personal details you share, and easily share them with others.

It stings when you find out that someone has been talking about you behind your back, especially when it’s someone you thought was your friend, and they slander your behaviors and actions.

Of course, we can never really know anyone: only what they allow us to see. But we hope that most people are genuine in their portrayal of themselves and their friendships.

Sometimes, though, we are wrong. That person can just be a cold fake. 


8) Fake people are extreme – hot and cold without warning

A fake friend will change dramatically. One moment they are nice and sweet with you, and then bitter or aloof on another day.

This is a real sign that someone is fake because it takes a lot of time and energy to keep up a fake persona. They aren’t consistent.

This usually starts to crack after a while and simple conversations or events can set someone off that shows their true colors. 

 


9) Fake people never initiate a conversation, coffee date, or hang out

A fake friend rarely reaches out. They don’t call you and invite you anywhere. They rarely text or call to see how you are.

They are always hanging out with other people, and they often neglect to engage you in the friendship. They love to be asked out, but mostly so they can reject your offer. They pretend to care but do very little to interact with you.

If you pull back, you notice they put no effort into your relationship.

By all accounts, that’s not a friendship, so take stock and move on. 


10) Fake people pretend to try to please everyone


Fake people are in a constant state of trying to make other people like them. They juggle so many balls that they can’t possibly keep them all up in the air.

They will try to say yes to everyone because they can’t stand rejection or the idea that they might not actually be able to do everything they say they can.

Instead, they promise things, say yes, and then many people are left out in the cold when the fake person doesn’t deliver.

Keep an eye out for these kinds of people and start the process of replacing them with people you can trust and can get to know for real. 


11) Fake people only pay attention to those in positions of power

If someone is fake, they are likely looking for an easy answer or the easiest route to the top of a power structure.

You’ll often see people in your work setting who prove to be fake because they only care about things when the boss comes around.

They are the quintessential brown-nosers and once you are on to these people, it’s not hard to confirm your suspicions.

The problem with fake people is they don’t respect you. They are using people as a means to their goals.


12) Fake people work overtime to build or find relationships

When someone is being genuine, it’s easy to become friends with them, and it’s even easier to find yourself attracted to them.


This is because, as you might come to find out, most people are not really showing you their true selves, so when you do find someone who is being real, you’ll find it incredibly enticing.

So watch for people who have to work really hard to connect with other people.

Fake people have a really hard time making friends and more importantly, keeping them. It usually doesn’t take long for people to find out that they are not who they said they were. 



13) Fake people seek attention to validate themselves

If you encounter someone who is constantly seeking other people’s attention or approval, it is usually because they need confirmation that the person they are acting like is liked by others.

Genuine people show up and show you who they are, but fake people need you to buy into the story they are telling and if you aren’t paying attention to them, it tells them you aren’t buying their act and it turns everything upside down in their world.

This also brings to light an important question. Why are you engaging with fake people? Is there something that you want from them? Are you seeking approval from and validation from someone else to make yourself feel better?

One clear way out of this is to get to know yourself better and tune into your true sense of purpose in life. The stronger your sense of self is, the fewer people are able to make you bend over backward for them.

Building up a strong sense of who you are immediately building your confidence sends fakes on their way.


14) Fake people distract from their fakeness with gossip

A sure sign that someone is being fake is if they spend most of their time talking about other people, and we’re not talking about good conversation.

We’re talking about gossip, the most destructive kind of conversation there is.

If you find yourself face to face with good old-fashioned gossip at the office, over coffee, or on the street, there’s a good chance they are trying to distract you with someone else’s nonsense so you don’t see theirs.

It’s just a reminder to be careful with your words and how easily you open up to people around you. Some may use any information you share to bring you down instead of supporting you as a friend would.


15) Fake people like to show off in front of other people


Whether they know the group of people or not, someone who is trying hard to be anyone but who they really are is going to show off so that people believe the act they are putting on for everyone.

It’s troublesome and frankly, kind of awkward when you realize someone is showing off so that people don’t get to know the real them.

It’s hard to imagine someone would want you to believe untrue things about them, but lots of people do it. Fake people always want to appear more confident, powerful, and capable than anyone else around them.


16) Fake people say bad things about other people

Similar to gossip, saying bad things about other people is a great way to distract from their own negative lives and make you think that they have their acts together.

They will go out of their way to put others down or make them appear malicious.

It’s a game of cat and mouse in the truest sense: they spit out some bullshit about someone and you chase after that information trying to validate it instead of trying to validate their story.

Try to take notice of how people talk about others around you. Is it with love or with jealousy, envy, and contempt? this can be a clear sign if you are speaking with a fake.


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